10 Reasons why you should not to Spanking your child

GladChild: You've probably seen a mother spanking her child because the child does not obey his orders or because the children make mistakes. Or maybe you yourself unwittingly ever spank your child because it would upset his bad behavior. Indeed the reason why you spank your children is to warn and discipline him so he would not misbehave and obey your commands.

In America alone, approximately 70% of parents spank their children as a way to discipline children. Apparently this is not a good way and correct. June 2002, The Associated Press launched a study from Columbia University. The researchers found, spanking children will have negative consequences for the child's behavior, including aggressive, anti-social attitudes, and problems with mental health.

Here are 10 reasons why you should not to Spanking your child:

1. Spank children will just stop the child not to behave badly for a while. The reason why your child is behaving badly because he did not know how to solve the problem.
2. Spanking the child will not teach it to behave well, but would only teach it not to get caught by her parents when she made a mistake. This will make the child can do the manipulating.
3. Children will be given the punishment given to him, not remembering what wrong he had done. He will be a coward, and instead become someone who wants to do right.
4. This will teach the child to resolve any problems by hitting. Should children be taught to accept, and solve a problem without violence.
5. Hitting will only teach children to behave in an external control or solve problems with physical punishment. It will not teach kids to control themselves (internal control) in the face of something.
6. Spanking may give mixed messages to children. Hitting a child who has grown will not matter much, but do not hitting a child are still small.
7. Spanking your child will stop the development of his moral. It hit him will make him stop making mistakes, but he stopped doing this for fear of guilt will be punished again. Not because he wanted to do the right thing.
8. Spanking your child will remove the child's sense of empathy. Empathy is sensitive to others feelings and feelings is the basis for moral development. Research has shown empathy a child will disappear when parents educate their children with anger and control, and not with affection.
9. Spanking the child will only open the way to know the world of violence. Hitting is an aggressive act, and you will only show the child that you as parents, have been out of bounds.
10. Spanking the child will not teach him good manners, but teaches how to yell, hit, manipulate and control someone with a growing fear in someone. It also means you have failed to teach discipline to your child.

One thing you have to remember, the purpose of discipline is to teach foster responsible for all the choices. There are still many other ways that you can use to teach discipline to your child. By saying gently, politely, support them with compassion, love and respect, is an effective way to grow a commendable attitude to the child. Teach child discipline to use affection is better than to teach discipline based on fear.

Children who experienced physical abuse susceptible to cancer

GladChild: Children and adolescents who experienced physical abuse are most likely at risk for cancer than children and adolescents who have never experienced physical abuse. Research conducted by the University of Toronto found that 49% chance of developing cancer in the adult body associated with the physical child abuse experienced in childhood.

Chairman of the research team, Esme Fuller Thompson says a lot of possibilities that connect between the physical child abuses with the development of cancer as adults, but have not found a good reason to explain it. One theory suggests the increasing levels of stress can increase the cortisol hormone, where this hormone will suppress the immune system, so it is not able to detect and destroy cancer cells.

Research that takes data from the Canadian Community Health Survey also found an association between abuse experienced in childhood and cancer diseases with their habits as adults, children start to smoking and drink alcohol. However, Fuller-Thompson stressed that most children who experience physical abuse is not likely to get cancer, but more research needs to be done to explain why people with higher levels of cancer in children.

Hitting a child will make their behavior worse

GladChild: Hitting children is a way of punishing is not recommended for any parent. The study found hitting a child can reduce the emotional intelligence and make their behavior worse.

The researchers found the penalty hitting a child can reduce the emotional intelligence and executive function skills (ability to think and modify their behavior when necessary) compared with children receiving non-physical punishment.

Constant child physical punishment can make children less disciplined because of declining executive ability. Although in the short term these children may behave discipline to avoid being hit, but in the long run the child's behavior will only get worse.

Researchers from universities in the United States and Canada are warning parents not to give physical punishment to their children, because the benefits only in the short term only.

The study monitored 63 children from two private schools in West Africa are aged 5-6 years. One of the schools use corporal punishment for students who commit violations, while other schools use non-physical punishment such as warning and out of the classroom.

The study results are reported in the journal Social Development shows that children do not get physical punishment significantly value-tasks higher than children with physical punishment.

The environment with harsh punishment is likely to have long term adverse effects of verbal intelligence of children and executive function abilities, said study author Professor Victoria Talwar of McGill University in Montreal, Canada, as quoted by the Telegraph on Friday July 29, 2011.

Prof. Victoria said the study suggests that physical punishment does not teach the children how she behaves or enhance learning, but rather a negative effect.

In the short term may not have a negative effect, but if done from time to time, this condition will not help the children in problem-solving skills and actually inhibit their behavior becomes inappropriate, he said.