How to make your home safe for babies

GladChild: Make homes safer for babies is very important. Every parent would want to create the safest environment for baby beloved, be it in the house though.

Having a newborn baby is very risky and need to be careful. If the child was aged 2 years and he certainly would be very nimble and fun to play with whatever is around him. Therefore, you should always be alert in watching the little guy. Maybe you already feel in control is quite strict in monitoring the activities of the small, but who would have thought if your child can do or play something dangerous around him, especially in the home.

When the child grows larger in order to pay more attention to the situation and security at home. Here are some tips on making homes safer for babies who need your attention and avoid in the house so that children do not play carelessly, among others:

Public, first make sure all the rooms contained within the house is not harmful to invite children to play. And make sure that every room in your home safe for your child. Put a cushion or a safety device that can cover the sharp objects or dangerous around the house. When buying toys, to also consider the placement of playground space.

Nursery, after you make sure each room with safe and then check back to the baby bedroom. To position the crib to sleep away from the lights, wiring, windows, and other decoration. Do not put stuffed toys in the crib or bed because this can affect the body motion is limited, so they can make it feel cramped and difficult to move. Inventories keep diapers in place like in a closet or drawer baby clothes. Keep children away from the reach of lotions, ointments, or anything harmful in order to avoid the child's play.

Electrical and wiring center, to avoid things that are dangerous when your child was in her room while playing, you need to watch too closely. Keep out of reach of the electricity or cable. If necessary to prevent it, make the cover of plastic material or fabric in any power centers so that children are not interested to play it.

Air pollution can affect children's intelligence

GladChild: Be careful with the environment, especially for small children. A new study says children who are exposed to poor air pollution will affect the lowering children IQ and intelligence tests.

Attraction impact of air pollution with intelligence similar to the impact of children born to mothers who smoked as many as 10 cigarettes, said Chairman of Research of the Harvard School of Public Health in Boston, Dr. Shakira Franco, as reported by Reauters Health.

The study examined 202 children aged 8-11 years in Boston. Then, researchers examined the relationship between the child's cognitive function in children who are exposed to carbon dioxide. Source pollution comes from motor vehicle exhaust fumes.

If children are exposed to carbon dioxide is continuously will have an impact on the low intelligence test scores. If when the researchers added other factors such as parental education, language skills, birth weight and exposure to tobacco smoke.

For example, continuous exposure to carbon dioxide which will impact the ability of the test vocabulary, memory, and learning. This includes exposure to tobacco smoke, he said.

In a research note, exposure to air pollution associated with the dangers that lurk. However, the length of time and moved away may not be able to prevent.

He explained that air pollution will cause harmful effects are characterized by inflammation and damage in the brain. Furthermore, researchers suggest conducting research related to inflammation and damage in the brain at all ages.

Facebook for Children, Good or Bad?

GladChild: Spend much time on Facebook are often accused of having a negative effect on children and adolescents. However, on the other hand he carried a good learning for them.

A revealing study of the psychological effects of child online activity on Facebook is. It is said, teenagers who spend much time on Facebook, have a tendency to narcissistic. They are also known to have anti-social behavior, and aggressive maniac.

Dangers of Facebook for children is said to also have an impact on children's achievement in school. Those who check Facebook every 15 minutes during learning reported its value decreases. The use of technology and media to excess every day also brought a negative effect on children's health, making children more depressed, experience anxiety and other psychological problems.

However, social network is not merely a negative impact on children and adolescents. As reported by Ivanhoe on Monday August 8, 2011, on the other hand the researchers also found that teens who hooked Facebook show they are more astute in showing empathy virtual on their online friends. Social networking also helps children to learn to socialize closed.

With the impacts brought up, the researchers still do not advise parents to monitoring children online activities.

If you are using a computer program to monitoring your children, then you are just wasting your time because the child will surely find another way about it. Begin early to talk about technology and build confidence, said Larry Rosen, social media researcher at the California State University who argued his findings at the American Psychological Association.

What age a baby should be allowed to swim?

GladChild: Movements when swimming can help to train the legs and hands, heart and respiratory system of infants. Water play, will also make the children happy and closer to her parents.

So at what age a baby should be allowed to swim?

Apparently there are two views regarding the most appropriate age to invite children to swim. Some believe the baby could be introduced on the activity if the head started swimming when she was being held in an upright sitting position.

Coaching swimming at an early age is considered easier for children because at the time his brain like a sponge that will absorb all the information it receives. Another view says the best time is when the infants aged 6-12 months.

According to Rita Goldbergs, a former British national swimmer and a coach, the key to train children to swim is done with a soft, pleasant and without trauma.

Ancient idea that the child plunged directly into the pool even though children do not have the ability to swim according to Rita is not recommended. He argued it would make children become traumatized and afraid of the water. Besides the natural instinct of children in the water also will not appear if a child is forced to swim.

Although many parents judge dangerous to the baby pool, but actually see the pool boy as a vast playground. Hence a baby must be really enjoying his first experience in the pool.

The courage of children in the pool can be done in stages because there are children who fear so his body exposed to water. You can also ask her to sing while teaching swimming skills, such as foot pedal movement or floating on their backs. In order for children to feel safe, make sure you are always nearby.

Child Avoid Those Parents on Facebook

GladChild: Facebook is one of the parent’s efforts to get closer to their children. Unfortunately, these efforts often deadlocked, because some children are reluctant to make friends with their parents on Facebook.

Based on a survey of two thousand British citizens by BullGuard internet security firm, 16 percent of parents never tried to make friends with their kids on Facebook and other social networking sites. Of that amount, one third experienced rejection. Similarly alerts Telegraph on Wednesday July 13, 2011.

More than 50 percent of parents claimed their children also monitor child activity on social networks by looking at their profiles, read messages on the wall and looking at photos stored. Five percent claimed to do the same if they knew how, while more than 10 percent said that their main goal is to open a Facebook account to check on their children.

The survey results reveal that even the majority of parents (76 percent) to monitoring child online activity, including checking the visited sites.

These project leaders, Claus Villumsen, insisted that parents have the right to be protective of their children's activities, given the growing number of sex offenders who use social networks to target victims.

These figures are a bit surprising, but because many elements are known to target the 'prey' via the internet, this seems understandable, said Villumsen.

Consideration of a minimum age of Facebook users is still being debated. Currently, Facebook does not allow children under the age of 13 years to become a member. But Facebook itself acknowledges that many bearing false ages on their profiles so they can get away from the provision.

Toxins in the Baby Gear Products Can Trigger Cancer

GladChild: To meet safety standards, a variety of baby gear products using flame-resistant compounds in a mixture of raw materials. Though safe from fire, this compound presents another risk because it could trigger cancer risk in infants.

A recent study released in the journal Environmental Science & Technology revealed that 80 percent of baby gear products containing toxins from refractory compounds (flame retardant). These products are generally made of plastic polymers.

One of the fire-resistant compounds used in products such as changing pad (a special basket for changing diapers), baby chair and cot are chlorinated tries. This compound had been used also in pajamas baby, but has been banned since the 1970s.

Environmental Protection Agency, which conducts research institute, said that chlorinated tries cancer risk by category (moderate). If accumulated, the effects could lead to growth problems and disorders of the reproductive system.

Not only that, the study also reveals that almost all special pillow for breastfeeding (nursing pillow) contains other types of refractory compounds namely 2-carboxyethylphosphine tries (TCEP). Just like other tries, TCEP also include carcinogens or cancer triggering.

The danger posed by TCEP is generally considered moderate because the human body is exposed by TCEP. It's just that according to this study, the average baby has a TCEP concentration 3 times higher because the use of products containing these ingredients.

TCEP concentration in infants is also higher because of frequent play on the floor, whereas the most frequent toxic compounds accumulate in the floor. The result could be swallowed by babies who like to insert a finger into his mouth after handling holding something on the floor.

Still, some experts consider the warning conveyed in this study was too excessive. One was Gordon Nelson, professor of chemistry from the Florida Institute of Technology who doubt whether the results of this research are still relevant.

Some of the products tested in this study purchased around 2002, before there was a ban on some types of flame-retardant compounds. For example PentaBDE are now no longer in use in industry, he said as quoted by USA Today on Thursday May 19, 2011.

8 Tips for Finding the Right Nanny for Your Child

GladChild: Hiring a caregiver to child is one of the most important decisions for parents.

Here are 8 tips for finding the right nanny for your child:

1. Hasty in seeking nanny is not a good idea. Take some time and review all the circumstances before making a final decision.
2. Make a list of what you want when looking for a nanny. This means including budget, time, expectations, reference, and what exactly the person you want.
3. Keep holding on wishes, not easy to accept if you find someone who does not like the initial expectations.
4. Look for sources that can give you a list of institutions or nanny services of different caregivers. You can look in the phone book, ask your family or friends who have used nanny service.
5. When it finds an nanny services, be sure to ask detailed questions. Ask how they select the caregiver, how exactly the process, how extensive background checks on them, whether they do a test examination of drug use, how long the agent operates, and other questions you want to ask. If the agent refuses or hesitates to answer any of your questions, move to the next agent's office.
6. Interviews with prospective nanny can be a lengthy process. Do not try to make it faster, have a list of nanny interview questions you want to know from the prospective nanny. Ask all of them, either 10 or 100 questions you have, and listen to answers from prospective caregivers. If you find an answer that does not match what you expect, mark that question along with names of candidates who were interviewed caregivers.
7. Check all references, even if you get a nanny through an nanny services. Important reference for measuring the track record of caregivers. The first question you should ask about the reference work is whether they want to hire a nanny is back. If the answer is no, ask for a detailed explanation.
8. Find out the background of the prospective caregiver you've chosen. Finding out the background of potential caregivers is very important, ranging from medical history and their behavior in the past. Make a written agreement between you and the prospective caregiver about what you expect from caregivers and what to expect from your caregiver.

3 Child Emotional Needs

GladChild: Children and adolescents are more controlled by their emotions rather than rational and logical thinking. Emotions may explain why children and adolescents behave that way, including self destructive behavior. So if we want to motivate them we should understand the emotions that control them, and use it to guide behavior and thoughts are more deceptive.

Here is the 3 child emotional needs:

1. Need to feel safe

One of the strongest needs required a child is feeling safe. Secure in themselves and Their environment. Teens looking for a sense of security with a set of Their peers, Engaging Them Among the social rules, and imitate his behavior. You need to remember that love is not the same child with the child feel loved.

What causes the need for security is not met?

• Comparing the child with relatives or other persons
• criticize and find fault child
• Physical and verbal violence in children

2. The need for recognition, accepted and loved.

Rarely do parents make their children feel important and recognized at home. Conversely, many parents are making their children feel small and insignificant with the threats and commands.

What is in the minds of children if treated like that? Parents We are just happy if the kids do the Things We command, but there That Their children were the resource persons at the mind Feel Defeated by doing what the Parents in that way. So many children who delayed or did not do what is assigned Parents (even with the threat though) to meet the emotional needs for recognition.

If children do not feel loved and accepted by parents, they will be encouraged to look at all the wrong places.

The desire of a child to be recognized and want to be loved is so strong, so they will do anything to get it. If they do not get recognition in the right way it will be found in the wrong way and the wrong place. This requirement encourages some children and teenagers to use a tattoo, disturbing other children, painting the hair with striking color, behaving like a clown and comedian. It is generally trouble themselves, but for the sake of getting recognition and accepted (attention).

3. Need for control (feeling self / desire to control)

As the child's growth, while search for identity and independence while learning to build from the parent. This process creates an emotional needs to be free and independent.

So that's why kids do not want to be governed to what to do. By listening to the advice of their parents seemed to be treated like a child.

Parents who are smart, will not surrender to face this. How do I provide direction, and for the child's parents want to hear? Use communication that does not mean forcing a child with our advice. make as if they learn and work hard for themselves not for us. they will be more excited and keeping motivated that way. And most importantly meet our child's love tank every day and make sure children are always full when you wake up wake up and before bed. That way the child knows who is most understanding and affection, and to whom he will come in time of need someone to hear.

9 Important Things About Your Children Playing Safety

GladChild: When playing time should be a fun time for your child. U.S. Home Safety Council says parents should examine all toys to be played by children to safeguard them.

Here are 9 important things about your children playing safety:

1. Should toy size big enough to grasp at once the child can not get into the mouth of children fewer than 5 years old.
2. Regularly check toys for children, to prevent any part of a broken or dislodged.
3. Routine check around the house, to small toys or parts that are separated from children's toys that they can recognize as their toy and can be swallowed.
4. Make sure the children are smaller does not easily reach out to children toys is greater.
5. Avoid toys that use a rope that can ensnare children.
6. Keep latex balloons from children reach.
7. Make sure all children toys already spent security testing.
8. Do not allow children to play with toys that use electronic or electrical.
9.  Discard plastic wrap and packaging toys as soon as possible after the toy is opened.

When Children Learn To Walk

GladChild: As a mother of course you will be proud and happy to see your child's first steps while still being dragged. Do not know surrender, he tried to move again and again. Finally, with full confidence, he will be able to walk steadily. Home range area was more extensive and exciting.

Stand-vine-road walking is a very important milestone. The average child begins to walk at age 11-14 months. According to existing data, 3 of 5 children begin to walk at the age of about 12 months because of nerves and muscles needed to walk began to grow perfect. In addition, the bones of children's legs were long and strong enough to support his entire body, including the head as the center of gravity of the body. In addition, children must have the ability to coordinate the whole body and limbs, and balance training. When he was able to stand, that is when the child tries to propagate it will do the rest on objects that can support his weight, then move forward. When the creep period is completed, or he is capable of supporting its body with both feet, children will try to stand a few seconds and then fall. Do not know surrender, toddlers 1 year trying to hold until he grew steadily walked and walked.

9 Tricks to Monitoring Your Child's Online Activities

GladChild: There is no better way to secure children from cyber threats in addition to educating them with a myriad of information about hazards and risks they lurk on the internet.

There is a parenting control software that offers an effective solution for Monitoring Your Child's Online Activities. But these tools just as a tool and should not be used as a substitute for mother oversight. Not necessarily by using this software, install it on your computer and observe the child's activity from a distance, then the child is guaranteed safe from cyber threats.

Remember that the internet can not only be done with computer. Children also interact with other people who are connected with mobile Internet, or access to Facebook and Twitter from school computers or computers at a friend's house. If you have this, then parental software would be useless.

There are times when a child is a teenager who does not like it if their parents spy on their online activity. Using a parental control software is another thing, try the other ways that are wise as described below. Of course, the tricks below do not all have to be applied but adapted to the conditions and ages of children.

The following is 9 tricks to monitoring your child's online activities:

1. Be a friend on Facebook

First way, make a deal with your child that if he wanted to create an Facebook account then he should make friends with you as parents, can the mother and/or father. This rule is non-negotiable. If a child wants to create an account up then he should agree with this rule.

2. Being friends with the parents of your children's friends

Form associations with other parents of children, which in fact is best friends with your child. That way, you will know more about your children's friends parents and the degree of their responsibility towards children. Remember that fruit will not fall far from the tree.

3. Place the computer in an open space

Psychologically, the child will show an awkward stance and feel insecure if there are other people who can freely see what they were doing at the computer, especially if he opens the weird site (Adult site). If a child online using a laptop, create a rule that don't online in the bedroom so you can still Monitoring Your Child's Online Activities.

4. Keep an eye on Twitter, Facebook, YouTube and Photos

Adverse events such as cyberbullying is not only happening in Facebook. Try watching the photos posted any children, what they read on the internet, what they tweet and retweet, what they see on YouTube.

5. Check the contents of a random phone

If possible, check your child's mobile content at random. Check the photos and videos what is in it, what time does the child's sms and receive sms, if anyone is threatening your children, and others. Children will show signs of suspicious if there are cell phone pictures, video, or a strange message that will try to resist if the parents want to see the contents of her cell phone.

6. Check the browser history

Just like mobile phones, if possible check the browser history logs that are used for your child. If the children remove their traces were not suspected of the Internet for parents, then you need to be more vigilant monitoring of activities undertaken children while online.

7. Create a time rule

This applies to phone and computer. Similarly, enforcing the rule that should not be watching television if it is not doing homework, during the dinner hour or after 9 pm. Similar rules should also apply to mobile phones and the internet.

8. Make an agreement on the online free day

If necessary, make an agreement on the online free day, can be a day or several hours. Unplug electrical computer or modem.

9. Be friendly

Parents must be diligent in dialogue with children about the dangers of predators and cyberbully, risk sharing photos and messages that are obscene, the importance of privacy settings. Let them know why you do all this, explain the reasons in a clear and do not forget to give the opportunity for children to voice their objections or concerns. Do not hesitate to compromise, but must still adhere to the rules that you consider important.

As a parents, we can not constantly supervise our children as they grew older and independent. If we want to gain trust and honesty to our children, encourage child start a dialogue as early as possible and show that we trust them.

Some foods that should not be eaten by your child

Some parents sometimes can not wait to quickly provide food for her child. There are some foods that should not be given to infants under age.

When your child grow and age, the parents begin to introduce some variety of food for him. But not all food is safe for children, some of which have a choking hazard and the other is not well taken because the baby does not have a perfect digestive system.

Some foods that should not be Eaten by your child on the basis of age, as quoted from babycenter, Friday April 8, 2011.

Age 4-6 months

Parents should not give any kind of food to children even if the food is soft or in the form of porridge, because all the nutrients needed by infants through breast milk has been provided for up to 6 months.

Age 6-12 months

Although the infant was allowed to receive food other than milk, but some foods should be avoided by infants:

Honey, there is the possibility that honey contains Clostridium botulinum can cause botulism. In the adult gut tract can prevent the growth of these spores, but in infants spores can grow and produce toxins that threaten life. Peanut butter, peanut butter generally have a sticky texture that makes a baby is hard to swallow. Dairy cattle, generally the baby can not digest the protein in cow's milk for 1 year first. Besides, he also does not need all the nutrients contained in milk, and a certain amount of minerals can damage the kidneys. Foods with large pieces, vegetables such as carrots, celery or tomato, meat or cheese should be cut in small dice, grated or boiled and then cut to prevent the food is stuck in the throat. As for the fruit should be given in the form of juice. Hard foods, foods such as nuts, popcorn, hard candies, raisins or other dried fruit has the potential to choke.

Age 12-24 months

Low-fat milk, mostly young toddlers need the fat and calories for growth and development, thus avoiding the low-fat milk for children under age 2 years. Also avoid foods that potentially cause choking.

Age 24-36 months

Although more children are eating a varied diet, but still there is a possibility he was choked by food. To avoid the food was still hard, cut large and chewing gum because most children don't understand how to eat right. Also avoid children eating, walking, watching tv or doing other things that can distract from the food.

Food intake of children has an important function as nutrients for growth and development, but parents also should take into consideration the digestive system which is owned by the child if it is perfect or not.

How to Cope with a very Active Child

It takes extra energy when accompanying children who are too active or can not be silent. Parents must be patient and always vigilant watch over who really is trying new things.

Recently picked him to get off the car, your child is running around. Even climbing or climb something that might harm him.

Children who can not be silent or very active indeed tend to have more energy than other children his age. They will find it difficult and frustrating if you have to sit for long without any activity. Of course, you as a mother will be anxious and worried.

However, please understand that young children generally do much to move physically. Encouragement of curiosity and wanted to try everything on her is so big. Even if he's always running away does not mean avoiding contact with you.

Children under five like the feeling of free and always running around us, says Patricia Shimm, Director of the Barnard College Center for Toddler Development in New York, United States and co-author of the book Parenting Your Toddler.

You can support her behavior, as long as you can control where he ran. However, how best to deal with a very Active Child? There is no theory of anything in the world to ensure that your child is superaktif it will always be safe. So it is important to emphasize responsibility to yourself to keep your child.

That means, you should continue to be alert to it and always create a safe environment for your child. The trick, always be close to him. If you are in an open space where you can see your child and he can see you, let him run around in front of you.

Usually, if you do not yell or run after him, he would stop his own and turned to see what your reaction. After that, he will come back to you when he sees you do not follow them. But do not take the risk if it was in the middle of a crowd or the highway.

You have to keep together with your child, says Roni Leiderman, Head of the Family Center, Nova Southeastern University in Fort Lauderdale, Florida, United States.

Children this age like like to hide. Let them not be seen from your view is too risky. You will not will never forgive yourself if he lost in the crowd.

You must indicate where the child may be running. Let him explore the safe areas like parks, where he is safe from the car and you can see it from afar freely and with its own speed.

However, in the park there are also areas in which he was not allowed to touch them, like in the bush or muddy soil. He will accept these limits more easily and learn to himself more quickly if there are many other places that are allowed and even encouraged, for he is free running.

The message you want to say is that running it is fine as long as done in the right place and time. The other way, try to involve yourself and entertain your children while behaving like that.

Young children often misbehave and violate the rules because he was bored or losing your attention. If that happens, try to involve your child in homework and worked together for more fun.

For example, asked children to help push the baby carriage belonging dia.Hal it can make children feel like doing something important. Or let him walk on his own approach you, when giving his favorite toy.

10 Mistakes in Teaching your Children

When you think whether you are a good mother? So your answer surely of course, I’am a good mother for my child. Parents are always trying to give the best for their children. In fact many parents make mistakes in teaching their child.

Here are 10 mistakes in teaching your children that you may not realize it:

1. Less Oversight

According to Professor Robert Billingham, Human Development and Family Studies, University of Indiana, "Children hanging out with too many artificial environment outside the family, and it is a tragedy that should be considered by parents". For example if your child is in daycare or school, try to pay attention. If your control is reduced, the solution look for another daycare, your child needs attention.

2. Failed to Listening

According to psychologist Charles Fay, Ph.D. "Many parents are too tired to give attention tends to ignore what their children reveal" for this point I've described in previous articles about actively listening to your child.

3. Home Seldom Meet

According to Billingham, parents should let their children to make mistakes, let the child learn from mistakes so as not to repeat the same mistakes. Help your child to solve their own problems but do not take advantage for your benefit, keeping your children motivated.

4. Too Excessive

According to Judy Haire, "many parents spend 100 km per hour drying my hair, rather than spend an hour with their children." Children need time alone to feel the boredom, because it will spur the children bring their own creativity.

5. Opening the Children Argue

According to psychiatrist Sarah B. Miller, Ph.D., of the most influential destructive behavior is a fight in front of children. When parents fight in front of their children, especially boys, then the result is an adult male candidate who is not sensitive that can not be associated with a healthy woman. Parents should warm the discussions between them, without the children around them. Naturally, the parents disagree but try without anger. Do not create feelings of insecurity and fear in children.

6. Not Consistent

Children need to feel that their parental role. Do not let them beg and whine to be a powerful weapon to get what they want. Parents should be firm and authoritative in front of children.

7. Ignoring Conscience

According to Lisa Balch, mother of two children "just do it according to your heart and let it flow without ignoring the surrounding sounds too debilitating. I learned a lot that parents should have a keen sensitivity about something. "

8. Watch TV Too Much

According to Neilsen Media Research, American children aged 2-11 years old watches 3 hours and 22 minutes of broadcast TV a day. Watching television will make children lazy learning. Parents tend to allow children to linger in front of the TV rather than interfere with a parent. Parents are very unlikely to filter the entry of negative ads that do not educate.

9. Everything Measured By Material

According to Louis Hodgson, mother of 4 children and grandmother of 6 grandchildren, "children now have many objects for their collection." It is not wrong spoil children with toys and fancy vacations. But should realize is that your child requires quality time with their parents. They tend to want to be heard than be given something and silent.

10. Be Next Heavy

Some parents sometimes more support of children and being pro child while vilifying their partners in front of children. They will disappear patterned perception and tend to be biased. Spend time with children at least 10 minutes of your busy life was interrupted. And make sure children know the time with parents is time that can not be interrupted.

Keeping your Children Motivated

Unlike the previous topic that explains how to Actively Listening to your Child, otherwise in this case you should speak and your child must listening to you. Initial enthusiasm in after school activities tends to wane after the first excitement is over. The trick is to keep up the hard work even after this. How do you keep your child motivated? This is of particular importance when the child goes in for educational after school programs.

Let your child understand how important studies are. Let him know that an excellent career is wholly dependent on wholesome learning. To develop his interest in studies, plan family activities that are connected with his studies. Emphasize the real world connection to academics whenever possible.

Let your child know, through example that hard work will be rewarded. If your child believes that achievement is a natural by product of effort, he is more likely to put in hard work. Such children are also less likely to drop out of programs and college at a later stage.

When a child achieves something, it is necessary to praise his hard work. Positive reinforcements enhance confidence and increase self esteem. Conversely, beware of criticism. It can ruin the frail ego of children and play havoc with their minds.

Actively Listening to your Child

One important thing to becoming a good mother is how you communicate with your child, in the case of this communication you as a mother must be actively listening to your child. In this way you will be able to find out what your children want and what problems they face.

Communicating with our children can be a difficult task at times. We feel like they're not listening to us, they feel like are not listening to them. Good listening and communications skills are essential to successful parenting. Your child's feelings, views and opinions have worth, and you should make sure you take the time to sit down and listen openly and discuss them honestly.

It seems to be a natural tendency to react rather than to respond. We pass judgment based on our own feelings and experiences. However, responding means being receptive to our child's feelings and emotions and allowing them to express themselves openly and honestly without fear of repercussion from us. By reacting, we send our child the message that their feelings and opinions are invalid. But by responding and asking questions about why the child feels that way, it opens a dialog that allows them to discuss their feelings further, and allows you a better understanding of where they are coming from. Responding also gives you an opportunity to work out a solution or a plan of action with your child that perhaps they would not have come up with on their own. Your child will also appreciate the fact that maybe you do indeed understand how they feel.

Don't discourage your child from feeling upset, angry, or frustrated. Our initial instinct may be to say or do something to steer our child away from it, but this can be a detrimental tactic. Again, listen to your child, ask questions to find out why they are feeling that way, and then offer potential solutions to alleviate the bad feeling.

Just as we do, our children have feelings and experience difficult situations. By actively listening and participating with our child as they talk about it, it demonstrates to them that we do care, we want to help and we have similar experiences of our own that they can draw from. Remember, respond don't react.

8 Steps to Becoming a Good Mother

Being a mother is a very cumbersome and has a heavy load, sometimes you think how to be a good mother and how you raise your child.

I will provide some tips that I know about 8 Step to becoming a good mother:

Step 1
Love your children, no matter what they do. They show the others what they should have, and love is the most important gift you can give to them! Hugs and kisses are mandatory. Embrace them no matter how old they might think. Everyone needs hugs to survive.

Step 2
Have patience while spilling their milk and get the remains of a cake on your new carpet. Count to ten and breathe, often hard to not scream. All mothers yelling at a certain point and if you do not, you can not read this! Train yourself to count. May not keep the tears, but will keep the pain.

Step 3
Respect for children and they will respect you. Appreciate the things they do to you, and they will do it more often. Reward and praise the work and tasks done well to teach them to work hard be good mother, and do it all without conditions is the key to maintaining a great life.

Step 4
Show your child is a person who is responsible for the work, prepare for them and take care of their needs. This will teach them to do the same thing for their families in the future. Build a house full of love for a child is the highest responsibility. Appreciate the times when families and children you show how much you are willing to do for them.

Step 5
Having a purpose to your children, your family and yourself. Involve the family in your goals, teach them to create their own goals and challenge them to achieve it. For example, if they want a new toy and is not close to anniversary, ask your children to do some extra work at home they do not normally do to get the toy. If your son or daughter is big on sports or school, encouraging them to go the distance and beyond. Support teams, reward excellence and participate in their performance.

Step 6
Continuing a tradition for your children. Some families have holiday traditions, others have a tradition of day to day. Teach your child about your family history. Cook old family recipes together, try a family craft project, or plan a party together. Keeping alive the family tradition of close family.

Step 7
Influencing your children to be the best that they can get. Talking with them, learn what they want from life and answer their questions. Children will love to hear more about the lives of those they love and trust than from strangers or friends. Your children will love and respect you more to talk with them, not for them.

Step 8
Be good to your children. They are born innocent. Keep them that way as long as possible. Treat your children with dignity, respect and love and they will treat you the same!

Hopefully these tips I gave you could be a good mother and can keep the harmony of your family.